Lang much prefers to focus on mindfulness. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. “If we really dial in to what we’re feeling,” she says, “often we will notice that we’re not really hungry, we’re tired. We don’t really need a glass of wine, we need a nap. We don’t really need chocolate, we need to talk to our intimate partner about how what they said yesterday made us feel sad.” Lang thinks if we thought more about how our food and exercise habits really made us feel long-term, more people would make better choices. But above all, she says, we have to truly listen to pregnant women. It can’t be an all-knowing doctor handing down the definitive word—it has to be a conversation.