He’s Just Not That Into You?

Learn how to score based on birth order

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. While the holiday is a source of contention for many, it’s better than Christmas for others. It all depends on what’s going on in your love life on February 14th during any given year. Experts have all kinds of relationship advice to help you find eternal bliss with that special someone. But this Valentine’s Day, let’s take a look at relationship compatibility according to …… birth order. Bring it, baby.

Plenty of research studies are available stating that your personality is shaped by the order in which you were born into your family. Now, this is all very general (and doesn’t take adoptions, step children and other factors that can change the birth order into account), but it does offer a basic rule of thumb that could probably describe a good portion of the population:

First Borns: Energetic, Logical, Ambitious, Enterprising, Scholarly. Famous first born children: Walter Conkrite, Dan Rather, Oprah Winfrey, Rush Limbaugh and Arsenio Hall.

Middle Children: Flexible, Diplomatic, Rebellious, Attention-seeking, Competitive, Peacemakers. Famous middle born children: Donald Trump, Ted Kennedy, Tim Allen, Julia Roberts, and Rosie O’Donnell.

Last Born Children: Risk takers, Idealists, Good sense of humor, Immature, Attention-seeking, Secretive, Sensitive. Famous last born children: Howard Stern, Jay Leno, Ralph Nadar, Bill Gates, and Danny DeVito.

Only Children: Mature faster, Get along well with older people, Responsible, Self-Centered, Perfectionists, Attention-seekers and Have difficulty sharing. Only children tend to be a special breed in that they can share the common personality traits of any of the above 3 main birth orders. However, they are generally more aligned with the traits of the first born. Famous only children include: Nancy Reagan, Chelsea Clinton, Carol Burnett, and Ted Koppel.

Feels almost like you’re reading astrological star signs, right? Well, just as certain star signs are more compatible than others, birth order categorization puts a new twist on an old question: “Is he/she the one for me?”

According to Dr. Kevin Leman in his book: “Birth Order Connection”, certain birth order relationships work better than others:

Only child and youngest; first-born and youngest; middle child and youngest: Gender plays a role here as well. For the absolute best match, pair the female only or first-born female with a male youngest child who has older sisters.

First-born married to a first-born: If you take a look at the personality traits described above, it stands to reason that this pairing will likely be a volatile one.

First-born married to a middle child:The middle child is a superb negotiator and can thus be a good partner for almost anyone. However, the first born can be domineering and may be somewhat intimidating to the middle child. However, if the middle child has last born tendencies in his/her personality, the pairing can be a good one.

First-born married to the last-born: This relationship is an excellent combination because the two can learn from each other. The first-born can teach the last-born how to be better organized and more responsible. On the other hand, the last-born can teach the first-born to loosen up and enjoy life a little more.

Middle child married to a middle child: This pairing can go either way. If one of the middle-born partners has first-born tendencies and one has last-born tendencies, this can be a good love match. However, if both have the characteristic secretive qualities, communication can be an issue. Interestingly, this match has the least chance of marital infidelity.

Middle child married to last born: This pairing will necessitate the middle child having some of the first-born tendencies in order to be successful, and will be even better if this individual is a female. If both share the characteristic behaviors of the last born, there could be trouble in paradise, most notably the tendency to be irresponsible.

Last born married to a last born: As above, there will be lots of fun initially, but in the long run life will become out of control without having at least one individual prone to taking charge.

Well, there you have it. Simplistic, but fun. I bet you were thinking of at least one or more of your relationships when you were reading it. How many Valentine’s Days have you shared with that special someone in your life? What was/is the birth order pairing of that relationship? Feel free to comment below on the accuracy of birth order compatibility based on your own experiences.