Seven apps that can actually help you through a breakup
Glue those shattered feelings back together.
That special someone has just stomped on your heart and left it palpitating miserably on the floor. How can you help it recover? Apps may not heal heartache, but they can ease you through the process of a breakup and make that pain a little easier to bear. Because no two relationships are alike, we’ll cover a range of emotional scenarios in this list. Even if one or two apps don’t fit your current mood, hopefully you’ll find at least one that repairs your injured feelings.
Designed specifically to guide you through the end of a relationship, Rx Breakup provides a 30 days of activities to keep you busy, focus your thoughts, and raise your spirits. Think of it like a pocket life coach combined with a personal journal. In addition to distracting you during a trying time, the app can gently take you through exercises to examine what went wrong with your relationship and explore future methods of finding happiness.
Although the app may bring up uncomfortable feelings, it maintains a supportive tone. By the time your 30 days wind to a close, you should be in a better emotional place than you were when you first started.
When its heart shatters, the human animal likes to hide away alone, skulking in its burrow and eating ice cream while it watches weepy movies. This is a terrible way to actually get over its breakup. Overcome that lonely instinct with Meetup, which can force you out the door to meet new people. The localized app asks you about your interests—outdoor exploration, technology, learning new things, music, and many more—and then shows you relevant clubs in your area, along with descriptions of any events they’re organizing. Through the app, you can RSVP to activities, connect to other members, and even, for a fee, create your own group.
Don’t expect to meet a new life partner through Meetup. Instead, use the app to stay busy and interact with new faces. And if you’re still too vulnerable to put yourself out there alone, get a friend to sign up with you.
Getting away from it all can be a good tonic for a heavy heart. While you can download a variety of travel apps (check out a few of our favorites), Kayak includes just about everything you need in one place. Its modern, intuitive interface makes it easy to compare flight, hotel, and car rental costs all at once. It can even scour other price comparison sites to broaden your range of options. When you do hit the road, it provides offline itinerary access, along with airport maps and information on travel disruption.
If you’re yearning for an escape from the everyday right now, you can enter a budget and immediately see how far it will take you at today’s rates. Take that spontaneous voyage and leave your messy relationship behind.
Looking for something similar to Rx Breakup, but with the option for more help after that 30-day period? Mend, which describes itself as “a self-care app for heartbreak,” covers 28 days of meditations and exercises, but after that month ends, it can continue to counsel you with more daily training. Each day, you receive audio guidance, complete a journaling activity, and answer a series of questions in an attempt to reflect, take stock, and put your dead relationship in perspective.
Mend also gives you access to advice and thoughts posted by other users. On the downside, you only get seven days of guidance for free—after that you have to pay for one of the plans, which start at $10. And for now, it’s only available on iOS.
Mend for iOS only: Free for 7 days, then $10 and up
In the days and weeks immediately after a relationship ends, you go through a riot of feelings. The meditation app Headspace can ease this emotional turmoil, encouraging you to look after your own wellbeing. It guides you through a series of mindfulness exercises, each with a different purpose. You can choose to reduce stress and anxiety, improve sleep quality and confidence, or become the best version of yourself. And the app encourages you to meditate every day: It requires nothing but your phone, the shortest exercises only take a few minutes to complete, and you can even receive daily reminders to practice.
While Headspace provides a free set of exercises, if you crave more variety, you’ll have to pay for additional packs at prices starting at $10. One pack even focuses specifically on improving your closest (remaining) relationships.
Another app specifically targeted at those going through a breakup, Breakup Boss incorporates guidance from relationship advice columnist Zoë Foster Blake. The goal: Take charge of your breakup instead of letting it control you. For example, it pushes you to do constructive activities, like going out and socializing, learning a new skill, or even venting your rage with a text to your ex (that never actually gets sent). You can also receive daily pep talks on your screen, as well as more detailed advice customized to your mood.
Unfortunately, that advice doesn’t come free. You can’t test out a trial version either, although you can check out the Breakup Boss website to see if it might suit your needs. However, if you think of the app as a self-help book, then its $6 to $7 price tag starts to seem like better value.
Okay, okay—immediately after a breakup, not everyone will be emotionally ready to jump right back into the dating game. However, if you want to wipe out the memory of your ex with a new boo or two, download dating app Tinder. Within the simple interface, you swipe through a series of profile photos and mark the ones you’re interested in. If a person likes you back, you can message each other. Fast and fun, Tinder can set up a quick hookup or spark a long-term relationship. Between the bio pages, chatting, and Spotify integration, you can quickly get to know someone beyond their smile.
You can swipe and message for free, or spend $3 or more to access bonus features like searching through profiles not located in your current area, undoing your mistaken swipes, promoting your own profile, and other perks.