Researchers in Germany have found that people who frequently use first-person singular words like "I," "me," and "myself," are more likely to be depressed and have more interpersonal problems than people who often say "we" and "us."
In the study, 103 women and 15 men completed 60- to 90-minute psychotherapeutic interviews about their relationships, their past, and their self-perception. (99 of the subjects were patients at a psychotherapy clinic who had problems ranging from eating disorders to anxiety.) They also filled out questionnaires about depression and their interpersonal behavior.
Then, researchers led by Johannes Zimmerman of Germany's University of Kassel counted the number of first-person singular (I, me) and first-person plural (we, us) pronouns used in each interview. Subjects who said more first-personal singular words scored higher on measures of depression. They also were more likely to show problematic interpersonal behaviors such as attention seeking, inappropriate self-disclosure, and an inability to spend time alone.
By contrast, the participants who used more pronouns like "we" and "us" tended to have what the researches called a "cold" interpersonal style. But, they explained, the coldness functioned as a positive way to maintain appropriate relationship boundaries while still helping others with their needs.
"Using first-person singular pronouns highlights the self as a distinct entity," Zimmermann says, "whereas using first-person plural pronouns emphasizes its embeddedness into social relationships." According to the study authors, the use of more first-person singular pronouns may be part of a strategy to gain more friendly attention from others.
Zimmerman points out that there's no evidence that using more "I" and "me" words actually causes depression—instead, the speaking habit probably reflects how people see themselves and relate to others, he says.
The study appears in the June 2013 issue of the Journal of Research in Personality.
This sounds rational, but it fails in social context due to dishonesty that often centers around the I or We. The dishonest use those terms for support-as a tool of trickery. Now assigning that a wide range as a behavior, including the dishonesties inherent in namedropping for social status or whatever, and then it starts to be relevant, but it's still just a start.
Do you, even understand you as you write these things?
@ 12; What don't you get? When those particular words are used, they could be as stated, indicative of depression or at least a tendency towards being closed off-but in the social context, the simple fact is that ulterior motive is behind those words at least as often as any genuine emotion that's then reflected as such to others.
Wonderfully funny! The self-absorbed psycho-therapy culture becomes more depressed the more the more we worry about ourselves. So doc help me know me, oh and I'll have a dose of Prozac with that too. I am just so over other people being so demanding of me!
"How was the movie?"
"We really liked it "(single person)
Small study, big conclusion, and I ( that's right I) have to say that it seems far fetched,
While I don't consider myself depressed, I'm somewhere closer to it on the happy spectrum. The thought I had while reading this article was that if I were to have a psychotherapeutic interview... I'd have little choice but to use words that relate to me if the topic of conversation was about MY relationships, MY past and MY self perception... even if it were just "I don't know" or "I don't have many deep relationships" or " I guess..." or "I feel..."
Chances are the people that don't use "We" and "Our" don't have significant relationships with others and tend on the more depressed side.
It's lonely not being a moron.